learning anew......

During the course of this class I have learned to analyze actions and words before they come out. Granted that actions and words cannot always be regulated so we must ensure to practice positive communication and have optimistic outlooks.  I have realized that it is impossible to foresee all possible variations of communication.  Education can also come by observation.   I have found that by listening to people when they gripe about how an interaction of theirs went and think of ways to better handle those situations and interactions.  I have learned new methods such as our vocalic.  Our kinesics plays a massive factor in non-verbal communication.  Tending to our awareness of conversational appropriateness, tones, speech rate, and eye contact or our affect display will aid in our search for remedies to our conversational flaws.   We must be conscience of others but not so much to wear it takes away from who we are.  There are some things that need not be altered, some conversational behaviors could be compromised, and some things DO need to go.  Hostile, mentally damaging, and violent verbal messages and comments are way better left unsaid.  I have a better understanding of pseudo listening and its harmful repercussions.  We must ensure that we remain active as listeners and engaging as conservationists.  These things are all easy to state the challenge lies in applying the knowledge to developing effective methods as they arise.  Learning how to compromise with people effectively will be a vital tool to establish and maintain the balance of relationships.  Honesty is important as I do not want mislead people.  I believe that “little white lies” can be positive but we must be careful and not abuse them.  I did not read much about humor as a means of effective communication as I strongly believe it to be.  The saddest situations can be temporarily and in some cases permanently alleviated.  Focusing on the positive light rather than succumbing to the negativity will alter the course of my communicable life.  I am a very optimistic person but negativity as an adverse affect I believe due to my troublesome past.  Learning new ways to listen and competently process the information with appropriate and meaningful responses.  I will never stop being who I am but I will use the information to shape the ever changing me.  I enjoy being silly and funny, it may not always seem appropriate but if you have time to stress out, you have time to laugh.  We must be who we are our individualism is what makes each of us unique.  Here is where compromise is vital; we make compromises every day when we select when and where to conform to the “rules” of communication.  The compromise is how much of ourselves should we express and how much should we accommodate others with our communication.    If I want to be an effective communicator I must be able to identify where potential issues may be and be able to resolve them in a rational and competent manner.