Patience required

  So I went to Albertsons to buy some oil for a fish fry my friends and I were doing.  I ran in for oil only and got to the extremely long lines at the check stands.  I opted to go for the self checkout as it looked faster.  I was standing in line for several minutes visiting with random people that would step in line for a moment and notice the two gals having massive problems with the self checker and remove themselves.  I remained because there was only one more gal in front of me that was very attractive.  I had a couple exchange of words making jokes to ease the horrendous stress of long checker lines.  As it was her turn to pay for her drink and pack of raw chicken she proceeded to tear the UPC code from the chicken tearing it in half.  After ripping this off it obviously is not going to scan but she proceeded to try anyways.  Now one self checker has broken down and it is just her now.  Now my communication that I observed was the lack of communication that I had.  Wanting to say are you seriously tearing that off and gonna try and scan it but thought it wise not too.  I do not know what compelled her to do so and think it would work.  Instead of being mad I grew more impatient though and had plenty of time to think of things to say.  The best I came up with was nothing.  I kept my smile and hid the kinesics I was actually feeling.  I did not run my hands through my hair as is typical stressed behavior in many people.  As far as the fellow behind me I could hear and see his anger with the young lady in front of us.  Comments said aloud can be harder than the person believes in my opinion.  I mean as he was making remarks she would get flustered and try to keep scanning faster as it is not working she can not think of that because she is being rushed.  If one wants to see me mad  start rushing inappropriately.  So he was not helping matters and I could identify that.  Had I not been so annoyed I could have alleviated her tension by talking with the man behind me.  In high traffic where our social space is one third what it is supposed to be builds more tension.  The immediacy of everyone's purchase is greater than the others thus putting more tension in the air because the person in front needs to hurry up.  Social tension can inflict damaging behaviors with no regard to the person being victimized (so to say).  Observing the overall layout in this ordeal is immensely beneficial as it provides many rays of light to new angles in many new areas.  Such as not focusing on my urgency because it is not going to change or lessen it can only grow if I let it thus hindering my ability to think clearly and rationally and affecting my communication. I have much to learn!
Sorry to anyone reading this, I accidentally saved this as a draft instead of posting this in the night of the fourth.